KEEP IT SIMPLE...then the difficult will be attainable

"What is Love?" In mathematics (as bad as I was) I was taught to break down what seems to be complicated to gain understanding. I no longer ask for love from a person, instead I ask for Respect, Patience and Honesty.
Respect: Understanding that the other person is entitled to happiness and peace just as much as you are or you desire it.
Patience: Understanding that humans were made to always be a 'work in progress', that they can and will carry out actions not always favourable to others, also to understand that some genuinely want to act in a manner that is pleasing to others but require the patience and guidance of others to attain that.
Honesty: Telling like it is, minus the fluff, regardless of not being favoured in the end. Doing this with yourself, and with others when it is called for. Let's not fool ourselves starting out with a lie, that is already the beginning of the end. This factor breeds good communication and rekindles a fire you thought once lost, whether within yourself or a relationship. Yes it has that mystical power.
In carrying out these, which are simplistic and easy to understand in nature, I believe you attain that which always eludes us...Love, because asking for LOVE is asking for something we readily don't understand but grasping the pillars of it however I believe is a sure way to go. Also I no longer struggle with what was of the past, it creates a certain amount of strife and frustration, if we today just take on certain principles there is no task whether marriage or any form of relationship we cannot take on and be successful at. Generations come and go but good and bad virtues are timeless, it's just a matter of choice which we adhere to. It happens often when I share my thoughts on such issues it would be downplayed as wishful thinking, and I smile, because bitter people can't taste honey.

People like this still exist, I have faith in humanity once again :-D

So I was having a conversation about marriage and defending it, saying that I don't think we as young people know anything about honesty, patience, commitment much less love to even start discussing marriage. Then a married woman entered the conversation with these words: "I love my husband though he has cheated I forgive him not because I am stupid but because I see the man he can be." (PAUSE) ............Yeah let that sink in for a minute................ok so let me continue with the quote "This is who I chose to marry and I will honour my commitments. The problem with this world is that we are selfish, self-centred, proud, dis-loyal and not spiritual, so how are going to partake fully of spiritual things?" You see I am going to be honest with myself on this one, I know I have not attained a certain level of maturity emotionally/spiritually to handle such a situation like this lady, and I believe many more individuals neeeeeeeeed (yes that many 'e's) to be more honest with self before COMMITTING to someone else OR just change the vows to say well "if you do so and do...I will so and so" because what this woman has demonstrated on a serious level is loyalty; loyalty to self her husband and God. Loyalty isn't something you show only when it is reciprocated, it's a code that's binding, and the more I think about it is the more I realize that such a step isn't for the weak and fairytale like. A friend of mine said nope! NOT HAPPENING, she believes in the good old fashion saying "an eye for an eye"; and my thought on that is if we continue in such a fashion then it's only a matter of time before there is no light in this already cold world. So it goes back to what are we truly made of, selfishness or selflessness, unconditional love or loyalty with conditions? I mean before you start out on any path of commitment be honest  and loyal with yourself as to who you are before promising someone that you will be honest and loyal to them. That is all.  

Mirror Mirror on the wall...

What happened with just going off how you feel? I mean, I believe one of the greatest evils known to man is the mirror. Here you are feeling ok, going through the motions, stroking your course beard (that's me), and then BAM! you end up in front of the mirror and all of a sudden your world needs re-evaluation, you think that doesn't look right, that needs to go and then for the rest of the day your mind is on go-fast as to what you need to adjust on your what was an 'ok before going in front of the mirror body'. I mean don't be fooled, after writing this note chances are I will be heading in front of the mirror for some irrelevant and torturing reason, I'm just saying something needs to give. We can't afford what we see to dictate what we feel or how we should feel. That is all.

Assassin - Something's Gotta Give (City Life Riddim)

I sit, hear and think...BOREDOM?

I sit, hear and think of how is boredom possible. I always had a spirit of curiosity as much as they said it killed the cat; well I believe that cat being one happy cat before it died or if not happy at least always having an adventure to embark on. In a world filled with so many wonders, even in one's immediate environment, it's impossible to say there is nothing to do. Ok so what about those that say it's not about not having anything to do but it's about not being interested in anything that is there to do. Well my friend if you fall in the category of the latter then ahm....I can't help you. In fact no one can I believe, because it's like the old saying that only in the abundance of water does a fool remain thirsty. I mean get up and start living, go do base jumping or break a speed limit, read a book or create something! JUST DO SOMETHING! Quit being bored and start living a little. That is all. 

Rudyard Kipling - If

If

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on";

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

I-Octane - My Life (Official Video)

Holding firm when everything else changes

Here I was playing a game of chess, both sides were steadily building; my opponent was building to attack my King. I was building to gain control of the centre of the board. In one move the opponent with his Queen had me thinking if my game plan was sound; keeping in mind it was a 5 minute match. After taking a few seconds to quickly evaluate the strength of my opponent's move and re-evaluating my position I realized that all was not lost and in fact my opponent had basically handed me the game. I regained my confidence, stood my ground and continued with my original game plan, eventually winning.
In life one will come upon surprise attacks unforeseen enemies and trials, this is not the time to 'jump ship' or retreat. Often times we are in the position to succeed, to conquer, to overpower. Thomas Edison said it best, "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."

Everyday I have a new Heaven to be a part of
New glory to bask in and new hells to conquer
A new choice to be a foe or lover
To grow or to wither