Here is one immediate step to take in securing a future for our people: STOP HAVING CHILDREN YOU ARE NOT FIT TO NURTURE! its a serious matter. We have cultured ourselves to have children as accessories, women: "have to have my first child by ....". Men: "how you call uself man an noh have a pickney?" we need to correct the view of what it takes to be a mother and father instead of a sperm donor and child bearer. Now I'm not here to start a sermon on unprotected sex and what not, because quite frankly I know I'm talking to the wrong generation if that's the case. What I am urging us to do is to really THINK if any of us are really prepared to bring a child or children into this wonderful economic/political/spiritual situation going on in our country? Now I agree, if we should wait on the perfect atmosphere to have children in, then we can might as well wait until the next lifetime. But where does the buck stop? I am SO SICK AND TIRED of girls and boys no not men and women, girls and boys bringing forth children INTENTIONALLY when they know they are not equipped in no way to be EFFECTIVE PARENTS. Now why would you do that? You know you cannot even finance this child through secondary level education much less giving he/she a jump start to stand on their own. Boys don't know how to be fathers, much less husbands. Girls opting to be 'babymothers' as opposed to wives (why value yourselves so little?). What is the garbage that's gaining popularity amongst our women where they are ASKING men to impregnate them and leave after; just for the sake of having a child?!?!? It's bad enough we have so many single parent situations for one to go out and seek it. I would institute a law just for that. What are we doing for and to our children, what are we doing to this country? You see folks, these are the little things that fast tracks a nation to hell, or for one that is already there, keep it there. Without healthy homes, you can't have healthy communities, and without healthy communities you won't have a healthy nation. Never underestimate the dots of stupidity, they connect to paint a bigger picture.
Its sad to see children having children. I've worked with pregant teens n met a 14 yr old with one child n another one on the way n she was proud. To her having a baby proved she's now a woman. To some parenting only means handing off their child to their parents. I agree wid most of what was said n i do understand ur take on women goin out n askin guys to impregnate them. I, however, personally dont have a problem with a single woman wanting a child, n maybe the point ur makin is different from what i'm thinkin. I'd prefer to see a child being raised right by a single mother than having both parents n the 2 dont mek one. At the end of the day, it all boils down to thinking, using our heads n making the best choice, not jus for us but the best choice for a child. N sometimes the best choice is not to have one. U seh secondary education, some cant afford to buy the first month pampers, much less buy a book.Though i'll never support abortion, it pains my heart to see our children suffering, to see them being treated with such disregard. but as usual good read, serious issues n good points
ReplyDeleteYou see no matter how sound one would like for it to be the absence of the father in the home contributes GREATLY to the ills of society, statistics here and abroad especially among the blacks will show that. Also without the stats single parenting is high and so is everything else in society. No matter how good a father wants to be he cant play mother and the reverse is true; so going out and DELIBERATELY having a child to suit one's own wishes at the expense of the child is really doing he/she a disservice.
ReplyDeleteI understand ur point but its not just about having both parents around. As u had said before, sometimes a mother or a father may not be an effective parent n that child might be better off without him/her. Personally i believe with a good support system, anything is possible. N in life we kno no matter how hard you might try, or how good u might be as a parent, u can never predict how that child will turn out. U can only pray n hope that the good values u teach is what they will emulate.
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